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Trying to spin it all INTO control…

In my last post, I mentioned “time…schedules…ugh…that’s a story for another day.”  Well guess what y’all?  It’s ANOTHER DAY!  And I’m ready to tell that story.  Like most of you, my weeks are usually planned ahead of time. There never seems to be enough time.  I thought once I got done with grad school, free time would just be never-ending for me, since I was used to never having any. What I have learned is that all the time I spent in school and thought I would have as free time just gets filled up with other things.  As I type this, I know that sounds like duh…it is your free time, Logan.  You fill it up with what you want. Yes, that’s true.  I am the controller of the almighty calendar.  Basically, I spread myself WAY too thin and it gets incredibly exhausting.

With the position I hold at work, I’m expected to be active in the community.  I like to be active in the community–it’s just the people and things that get pushed to the wayside so that I can be active that eat at my soul.  I am a Chamber Ambassador, a member of the local Young Professionals group, on the events committee for a downtown development association, now I’m participating in this Dancing with the Stars deal, not to mention the fact that I work full-time, teach spin classes, and oh yeah, I have a husband, a family, and friends that all want to be part of my life (and I want them in my life).  Most of the Chamber and Young Professionals events are on Thursday nights, when I want to be at home group. I hate to have to tell my home group that I can’t come talk about the Lord because I’m busy schmoozing with other professionals.  BUT, I know I have control of that.  I guess my problem is getting a grasp on that whole saying “no” thing.

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Yesterday, for instance, I worked all day, changed at work and got dolled up for our Dancing with the Aiken Stars program pictures, then went to dance practice. What time did I leave my house yesterday?  Ohhhhh, 7:30 am. What time did I get home?  Hmmmm, around 10 pm.  I never ate dinner and Matt was ready to go to sleep when I got home, hence, we barely spoke all day.  I know there are people that do this all the time.  Yes, I’m used to it because I did it for almost 2 straight years while in grad school.  But I miss being home.  I miss Matt.  I think about how I haven’t snuggled with my cat-children lately.  The house is a wreck. Here’s the million dollar question–How on earth could I manage all of this AND have a child?  Ha, not happening.  So when people want to know what we are waiting on…I mean just think about everything I said.  I barely have the energy to take care of myself.  Much less a little squirt.  The thought completely overwhelms me.  Yes, it is my choice to participate in these events and be on these committees.  I basically have no idea what point I’m trying to reach here.

Oh, what about working out, Logan?  What about half-marathon training?  Yes, please tell me how that is supposed to happen.  I have a wedding rehearsal tonight, we are going to Clemson tomorrow for the game which will be an all day affair, I have a church event to work from 12-1 on Sunday, then a 90 minute spin class from 2:30-4, dance practice from 5-6, then Sunday dinner.  Oh and I’m supposed to sleep too.  Check email, put out fires, all that good stuff. I think what bothers me is when people say “there is NO excuse.”  Pardon me, but yes the hell there is.  I have definitely been lazy when I could have been productive. I won’t deny that.  But aren’t we allowed to be lazy?  Oh, and I don’t even cook my husband dinner because I’m NEVER HOME.  Thank God it doesn’t bother him that he doesn’t have a hot meal waiting on him when he gets home from work.

Our first Clemson game together.

Our first Clemson game together.

I think it all goes back to that post I wrote about priorities a while back.  I haven’t quite gotten them all straightened out but I’m working on it.  First and foremost, I am going to have to start saying “no” to some of this work stuff.  The fact that Matt called me yesterday and asked me when I would be home and I said “probably 10” and then he said “gah, you are spreading yourself to thin, I miss you” really bothered me and made me feel all fuzzy at the same time.  He’s right…I spread myself way too thin.

Oh!  Another thing I wanted to complain about today…to all you ladies out there: are we really expected to handle all of the parental relationships for ourselves and our significant others??  God knows I love my family and my in-laws, and this isn’t me throwing Matt under the bus, but is it normal for the ladies to have to handle everything when it comes to making plans with them?  They just want to spend time with us which is GREAT (it could be that we have parents that don’t give a rip).  But it is immensely overwhelming to think that I have to manage all of those relationships and if I say “no” to any of them, I take myself on a guilt trip.

Sorry, this was incredibly long-winded.  But it’s something I’ve wanted to discuss for a long time.  It sounds mostly negative-I know.  I am grateful to have a busy life and people that care about me.  And I’m totally looking forward to my busy weekend.  Again, I’m not sure I made absolutely ANY sense here.  Thanks for hanging in there with me anyway!

Happy Friday!!

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Started from the bottom…

Earlier this year, I could have sang along to that song and meant it…”started from the bottom now <I’m> here…”  Now, not so much.  I trained my butt off last year for my first half-marathon in January.  I really had started from the bottom. Yesterday, I realized I’m back at the bottom.  I told y’all I was going to run 5 miles yesterday.  Well, I made it 5 miles but I wasn’t running the entire time.

I remember a time when 5 miles was my favorite distance…not too long, not too short.  Yesterday, I was good to make it 2 miles before I had to take a break.  2 MILES.  Seriously people.  My grandma can do that for goodness sake.  I ran/walked the next 3 miles until I called it quits.  I was so disappointed and mad at myself.  I had worked so hard before and I let it all go.  Then again, I went out yesterday with the mentality that this was something I had to do.

Training for me becomes a have to, another job, just another thing I must do in order not to fail.  I’ve told y’all before and I’ll say it again…I hate training.  I won’t give up and I will do well in November.  I’ve already committed and paid for the race so there is no looking back.  But after that, I want to get back to MY basics.  I was born (so to speak) to ride a bike (okay, a stationary bike).  I LOVE to spin.  Training for races keeps me off the bike which in turn kinda pisses me off.  Training also keeps me from doing things like yoga and barre, two other activities I love.  I don’t have enough time during the week to fit all of those activities in and still train.

I love the actual races and I am excited for the Savannah half…too bad it isn’t that easy.  Too bad we can’t just get out there and GO.  When I first started running, it was so exciting and new…something I had never pushed my body to do before.  I’ve done the 5Ks, the 10Ks, and now the halfs.  After this, I’m done guys.  At least for a while.  Until the actual urge to race comes back.  If I run, I want it to be because I want to…not because I feel like I have to.  Not to mention, races aren’t cheap.  Okay, you runners out there are probably all pissed at me now and think I’m giving up.  I’m not…running just isn’t a passion of mine just as spinning may not be a passion of yours.

Now that I’m over that rant, I want to show you why I should never wear shorts in public…

photo 2 (2)That red circle encompasses the bruises I found yesterday.  I’ll be out and see cute girls with great looking legs…and then there’s busted ol’ me.  Bruised up, veined up, mosquito bites everywhere.  I’m like a 12 year old boy mixed with an 80 year old lady.  How do I end up like this?  Anyway, after my 5 miles run/walk, I came home to a delicious well-plated meal by Chef Spires…

photo 1 (2)I thought this was a step in the right direction.  We usually have rice or some other starch and he steered away from those.  He seasoned the chicken with some of my box wine (awww yeah) and some Italian dressing.  It was delish.  I’m so glad the Lord paired me with a man that can cook…andddd I’m sure you are wondering why we have paper plates from Papa John’s.  Matt worked there for ten years.  We are on our last pack though…guess I’m going to have to start buying our own!!

Can anyone remotely relate to how I feel about training/running? Maybe you feel that way about another activity. Let me know.

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So yeah, maybe I should start running…

Before we get started, I wanted to show you what one looks like after hot yoga

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I know, I know…hot right?  Hot as in temperature hot.  I got home from Columbia around 1:30 today and decided since my hubby was going golfing, I was going to hot yoga.  I am so glad I did.  It was just what I needed to wind down a great weekend.  (By the way, if you want your hair to look this good, don’t brush it for about 24 hours…works wonders.)

So I mentioned that I went to Columbia…well before that, I played in a bocce ball tournament yesterday at the Aiken Mini Bluegrass Festival. I had definitely never played bocce ball before yesterday.  So yeah, we were totally in it to win it.  I played as a member of our Young Professionals group–and money from the tournament went to a good cause (United Way), so I didn’t mind getting roped into this.

photo 1Here is me with our team…Bocces B Crazy.  Clever right?!  (The guys came up with that…)

After I wrapped up at the Bluegrass Festival, my cousin, aunt, and I headed to Columbia for a quick little girls’ trip.  Our aunt had been dying to escape the reality of motherhood and really needed a break from the pre-teen and toddler woes. Megan went to school in Columbia so she wanted to take us to her favorite sushi place.  Oh and did I mention Megan worked as an intern at a hotel while she was in school?  Hellloooo free hotel room.  I holla atcha.

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We hitched a ride with the hotel’s free (cha-ching!) shuttle and headed to Sakitumi.  I wasn’t very crazy about their sushi…probably because I’m used to eating flash-fried rolls.  However,  we did order some saki.  I’m not sure how you are used to drinking saki, but this is the biggest thing of saki I’ve ever seen…

photo 2That’s a carafe full of saki.  Wow.  After dinner, we headed to Tin Roof and ran into some friends from home.  I wasn’t even gone from home for a full 24 hours but it was a great little getaway.  One night is about all I need…I do tend to miss the hubby (I’m a total sap).

photo 1 (2) photo 2 (1)Okay, now it’s time to break the bad news to everyone…I have a half-marathon to run in 6 weeks!  Have I started training?  Ahhhh, nope.  Am I starting to get nervous?  Ahhhh, yep.  Can I still get my butt in gear and make it happen? I think so.  For some people, 6 weeks may be plenty of time.  But it isn’t for me. Between work, home life, family, and teaching spin, I typically only have time for 2 runs a week (when I actually stick with it), one of those being a long run. So it’s time for me to get down to business.  I have just kept telling myself “it’s okay, you ran two of these before…you can do it again.”  I also trained for the first 2. Duh.  I was really hoping the race I was supposed to run last week was going to give me my kick-start into training mode.  But we all saw how that turned out.  In any event, it’s time to get to work.  Have you ever had to train for a race in a short amount of time?  Help me tell myself I can do this.

Now…I’ve had my hot yoga, dose of Wal-Mart, and a plate of Matt-made nachos. Time for Boardwalk Empire…annnnd guess what else is back?  Eastbound & Down!!  Night made.

 

 

 

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Wanna win a bill?

Ha!  Totally got you with that title, didn’t I?!  Sorry…I kept going blank and couldn’t think of a creative title that remotely applied to this post.

First, I would like to say thanks with regard to my last post.  Not only did I get reassuring and supportive comments, but I received texts and emails from friends wanting to check on me.  You should know how much I appreciate you taking time out of your day to check on me!  Re-prioritizing my life will take some time–it’s a work in progress–as I’m sure it is for most of us.  We don’t always get it right but I’m damn determined to get close.  Now, the pity party has ended and we have finally reached my second favorite day of the week, Wednesday.  (Monday is obviously my fave…said no one ever.)

I taught an hour long Ripped Ride class last night, followed by a very productive gym staff meeting.

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Teaching Ripped Ride is such a struggle for me!  I assume my class doesn’t recognize it but I do.  I think what is hard for me is that we get really pumped up and reach a high heart rate and then it’s time to take the resistance bands down for upper body work which slows us down.  The way I planned this playlist out was 4 songs, then bands, another 2 songs, bands again, 2 songs and bands, then one last sprint to end the class with a bang.  I think it’s hard to get the adrenaline rushing again after you slow down.  It is for me anyway so I have to assume it is for some of our clients as well.  I’m going to keep working at it though.  It may just involve me getting off the bike more and working the floor to motivate our clients.  Any advice here?

Not a lot going on in my world today.  However, I am super excited for a hot lunch date with my main squeeze today. He works in my part of town on Thursdays.  Even though I have to wait until like 1:30-2:00 to eat lunch, a quiet hour out of the house is well worth it.  I hope you guys have an awesome Wednesday!  The weekend isn’t far…

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Let’s Get Personal…

This is probably the most personal post I’ve ever written.  Not sure how I feel about opening up this much but hey, I need a therapy session and I’m broke.  So here goes…

This weekend was full of fun times, let downs, fun times again, let downs again, and then some reflecting on my part. Friday was so much fun.  We celebrated Bess’ birthday and everyone had a great time.

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Disregard the burrito eating. Boys and pictures…

As you all know, I was supposed to run a 5k Saturday morning.  Well, I’m not going to get into the details but we had a family emergency that kept me up half the night and the race never happened for me.  I also ended up with a dead cell phone and no charger so I didn’t wake up in time to tell my friends that were running with me what was going on.  I literally called them 6 minutes before the race began.  They were completely understanding but I was a basket case all morning.  I felt like I had let my friends down.  It seriously ate a hole through me.  I know that things happen.  And that’s what I have to remind myself…things are going to happen that are out of my control.  There is nothing I can do and I have to learn a better way to deal with that.  After balling my eyes out and running around the house thinking I could make it to the race in 6 minutes, I hung up the running shorts and knew I had failed…at least that’s how I felt. Then I began to obsess about “what would I say on the blog?”  “What do I tell people who ask how the race went?”  I came to the conclusion of who freakin’ cares.  I don’t have to explain anything if I don’t want to and so now here I am trying to explain…oh the irony.

Despite the madness and tears, I also had other people depending on me and Matt to go to a football game.  So I hopped in the shower and out the door we went.  I’m glad I had to keep moving; otherwise, I would have probably been a cry baby all day and just brought myself down more.  The game was fun.  It just rained practically all day and kinda put a damper on the day…

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Thankful for dresses like this…they dry quickly!

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The stands started emptying out when the rain got heavy…

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Rain or no rain, still my favorite place on earth.

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Matt–the ultimate creepy photobomber.

photo (59)After the game, we found a good spot to eat and decided to head on home.  We had every intention of being 20-somethings in downtown Athens but we were tired, damp, and ready for clean, comfy clothes.  Matt and I ended up in bed at 8 pm and didn’t move until around 10:30 the next morning.  We have done that for the last 2 Saturday nights and I can truly say it feels awesome.  It’s quality time together and we get to recharge for the week ahead.  

Yesterday, I went through another inside-Logan’s-head-battle and finally cried enough to convince Matt to make me breakfast 🙂  The inner battle I constantly face is people-pleasing.  I don’t want this post to get too long so I am going to focus on priorities more next time but I think I really need to evaluate who I place in my life and where I place them. Right now, this is what I believe the pecking order looks like:

  • Family
  • Friends
  • Matt
  • Me
  • God

Work and gym fit in there somewhere too.  Probably around the “me” line.  But this is what I believe my pecking order should look like:

  • God
  • Matt
  • Me
  • Family
  • Friends

I focus so much on making sure other people happy that I don’t focus on what’s actually important in my life.  I don’t focus on the one person who should get my full attention–my husband.  I’ve always been a people-pleaser and I have always cared way too much about what people think–did what I say hurt their feelings? Did what I say make them mad?  Did me cancelling that plan hinder my friendship with that person?  Yes, people should care about those things to an extent but I OBSESS about them.  Some people don’t care about that stuff at all. Anyway, I don’t want to get into this too much in one post so until next time…does anyone have any advice?  Or does anyone understand where I’m coming from?  Come on y’all, this was totally a pity party post…make me feel better 😉

On a positive note, I’ve had a great Monday and I hope you have too.  And one thing that has kept me positive today is something a friend told me yesterday…don’t dwell on what you didn’t do right today or if you didn’t do enough–focus on how you can make tomorrow better.  

 

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What I’ve learned so far…

Before I get to the point of this post, I want to share my playlist from yesterday’s Ripped Ride class…

photo (1) photo (31)I’ll post the specifics for each song later…we had a great class!

So, I have been blogging since July 2nd…almost at the two month mark.  It seems like much longer already!  But I wanted to reflect on a few things I have learned and noticed over the last two months.  It’s a short list but I think it will be interesting to see how it grows in the future…

  1. People like pictures.  Okay, like pictures.  A lot.  One thing I can’t stand is to read a lengthy post with no pictures.  I’m like a child…didn’t you want to read all the books with pictures when you were little?  I don’t think that changes much as we get older.  I don’t care if it’s a picture of the sky.  Or a selfie.  (We all know you take selfies in the car…)
  2. People like food.  This is one area that I need to work on…but hey, I never said my blog would be about eating healthy or recipes.  I. Don’t. Cook.  I’m like the wife from Talladega Nights, except I’m not as rich, hot, or bitchy.  People love recipes and seeing pictures of food.  I do have a folder in my email where I save most of your posts with good recipes (by good, I mean those that my husband and I would consider eating).  In the back of my mind, though, I know I may not ever refer to them.  Not because I don’t like them or appreciate the effort you put in to sharing them…but because i. don’t. cook.  One day…one day…
  3. People like real.  It is obviously hard to get to know someone via blog posts…so don’t make it all about the fitness or all about the diet.  I want to get to know you outside of all that.  Maybe I’m just creepy.  We all have an intended focus for our blogs but it’s okay to sometimes go outside of that realm.  The only thing that I am keeping off limits with my blog is my marriage.  It could be the best relationship in the world but you won’t read much about it.  That’s just something I don’t feel should be shared with a bunch of strangers, even if I feel like I know some of you.  Some people say wayyyy too much via social media about their spouse and marriage and it causes problems.  I’m sorry, good or bad, sharing it with the world via social media includes very fine boundaries.  Now, what I do like are success stories.  Those can be inspiring.  So, your marriage fell off track and you fixed it? Great, you may help others that are in your previous position.  Pissed off at your spouse and want to bad-mouth them? Keep that off the internet.  It’s called respect.  If you’re doing it in a joking manner, that’s one thing.  But I think you guys know what I’m talking about.  No one likes a Debbie Downer, a Negative Nancy, a Fun Sucker…okay, I’ll stop.

Like I said, it’s a short list.  And this is just what I’ve noticed over the last two months that like (and dislike) about blogging…you may completely disagree and that’s fine.  Please tell me about it, whether you agree or not! (Seriously though, just give me pictures.  I’m like a child…why do you think I’m addicted to Instagram and not Facebook?  Pictures, people, pictures! :)) Happy Hump Hump Hump Day!!

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Feeling forty-nine.

Today is a very special day…my dad’s 49th birthday!!  I can’t wait for next year. His 50th will surely include a throw-down celebration but for this year, he wants to keep it low-key.  We are just having dinner at the house and my step-mom and nephew are baking him a cake today.  My nephew absolutely adores his Papa. Seeing them together gets me so excited about the Bryant-Spires baby future (and no, not anytime soon :)).

My dad and I have a great relationship.  He has always been more of the “friend parent” than the disciplinary parent. That was/is mom’s job.  My dad has always been the one I can be 100% truthful with and he has and always will be my #1 fan…whether I’m right or wrong.  He has always made it so easy to come to him about anything. That can be good and bad but he knows how to give me a reality check when I need it.  I am his only biological child and I’m a girl…so that has always given me some leverage.

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This is one of my most favorite wedding pictures. (I was also basically having a panic attack and he was laughing at me)

photo[4]Remember…any excuse to post wedding pics is a great excuse.  But I can’t wait to celebrate my dad this evening and getting to eat a homemade cake by my nephew is always a plus.  This does mean I won’t get a chance to workout today but I’m totally okay with that.  I was able to get a good walk/run in yesterday and I already have gym plans for Wednesday and Thursday this week.

So yeah, yesterday.  I’m such a ditz.  I didn’t realize that the gym had changed it’s schedule yesterday and wasn’t have its usual Spin/TRX class.  Wait, that part doesn’t really matter.  Even thinking the usual class was still on for yesterday, I totally left my tennis shoes at home on purpose so I wouldn’t have to go to TRX after spin.  Yep, I’m a criminal.  I use spin shoes so I rarely take my tennis shoes with me.  Well, turns out that the gym was offering a special 45 minute Shockwave class that I really wanted to try; however, as you can assume, you need tennis shoes for this class.  So then I thought, “maybe I can make it to Gold’s for a RPM or Body Pump class.”  Nope, I wouldn’t make it in time from work, considering I work 30 minutes away from home.  Then I just decided I would hit the Greenway (our local outstanding paved trail that you have access to at basically any end of our little city).  I didn’t want to take that trail on alone because again, I’m a perfect kidnapping candidate.  So I called up my friend Gary and asked if he wanted to join.  He said he was planning on it anyway so he scooped me up and on we went.  We did some great power walking and then ran on the way back.  No, don’t ask me how far we went because I didn’t use my GPS watch or any of the apps on my phone.  I’m a genius.

The Greenway ends up wrapping around this cute neighborhood that includes some cafes and other shops.  We stopped at one of the cafes on our way back and sat outside with a few beers.  I decided to try something I’ve never had…

photo[23It was delish.  I really like trying different beer(s) (is that like deer or do I make it plural?).  The weather was perfect out and it was a great way to end the day. Then I went home to find my youngest brother’s wedding invitation in the mail!

photo[2]The invitations are so sweet.  Unfortunately, they are military and I have found that our soldiers that want to get married end up having to do so on crazy dates and at crazy times.  So they are getting married on a Wednesday…in California. Which means that Matt and I won’t make it.  He started a new job a few months ago and doesn’t have vacation time accrued yet.  And I don’t have enough time left for the year to take off almost a full week.  So maybe my dad can FaceTime us or something.  It really bums me out that we can’t make the trip.  Have you ever had to deal with a situation like this?  Keeping the family together is getting harder and harder.  I have one brother in Texas and one in New Mexico, and it’s not a quick trip to get to either of those places.  One day soon we will all be back in the same state but until then, it honestly just sucks.

Well, I’m out to tackle this Tuesday.  Counting down the hours to birthday cake and playing with my sweet nephew. Since I am not getting a workout in today, I’m planning to go to RPM in the morning.  Okay, not planning, I am going. Hold me to it!

 

 

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